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Night Cracks's avatar

Welcome to the elite club of writers who made me sob between the gym sets.

I'm really glad you managed to heal. I don't think I or anyone else needs to tell you that, but you have all the right to find a new love. You're the only person in the world that can stop you from that.

venus faye's avatar

thanks so much for reading! i really appreciate it.

sometimes i think finn meant that i am my next great love, in the messages he’s sent along since he passed. because that is what seems to be happening on my healing journey, it’s all about self-love in the end.

i feel lucky to have known a love as deep as this one, even if it was only 8 years. maybe that’s enough…

Night Cracks's avatar

I wish you’d had more time together, but eight years is a long time in an age when many struggle to sustain a relationship for more than a few months. It shows there was something deeper than mere biology between you.

M. E. Saunders || Mac's avatar

Excellent work. 💯

venus faye's avatar

Thanks for reading and sharing! It means a lot. 🥰

2 Wild And Free's avatar

I’m so sorry for your loss. Your letter reflects such deep love and the presence of your beloved, even in their absence. It feels so real and alive in its own way. Thank you for sharing, and please keep posting these letters. They’re healing and have such a powerful impact. Much love ❤️

venus faye's avatar

Aww, thanks for saying that. I have written a variety of posts so far, but this one feels like it is helping me on even deeper level, to write Finn directly. Thanks for being my witness on this healing journey called life! ❤️

2 Wild And Free's avatar

Thank you for letting us be a part of this ❤

Quinlee's avatar

Reading this was a journey. Your writing is nothing short of enchanting, and it invokes emotion with such inspirational ease. I want to thank you for sharing this, Venus. So beautifully done. ❤️

7 pillars's avatar

This is one of the most tender, soul-stirring pieces I’ve ever read. Your words carry the weight of love that transcends time, and the grace of someone who’s walked through the fire and emerged luminous. The way you honor Finn while allowing space for new love and new life is a masterclass in emotional courage. Thank you for showing us that grief isn’t a wall, but a doorway. And that healing doesn’t mean forgetting, it means expanding.

Your heart, your voice, your journey… they are a gift to anyone learning how to live again.

Innerverse's avatar

This is one of the most moving things I’ve read in a long time. The tenderness in your words makes the love still feel alive—like it’s simply changed form, not ended. The way you balance grief, gratitude, and quiet acceptance is beautiful. It’s such a gentle truth, and you expressed it perfectly 🫶✨

venus faye's avatar

Aww, thank you so much for your eloquent reflection. It’s so nice to be witnessed in our writing and our journeys to wholeness.

Melel Jas's avatar

So lovely, Venus. Thank you for sharing this intimate piece, your peace ripples throughout existence in ways well beyond your sight. And sending my gratitude to Finn as well, for allowing us to feel a bit of your soul through this, never forgotten. Some die, that we may live. I sure hope to be able to read more of these, it’s truly is a treasure.. He’s more alive than ever, I can feel it through your words. And you are more enlightened than ever, because of it. Loving this.

venus faye's avatar

Aww, this is such a beautiful response on so many levels. Some die that we may live—is so true. I really appreciate your words and friendship here. ♥️

Eva  Smitte's avatar

So touching and inspiring in equal measures , it felt both grounding and elevating reading your words to your eternal love. And the bit about cats peeing on the sofa made me smile :)

venus faye's avatar

Aww, thanks for reading! Yeah, there really is something elevating and grounding about Finn’s and my continued relationship and all along (though it was only 8 years this time around) it’s so special to be able to experience both in a connection. It’s the best. ♥️

The Therapist Who Came Undone's avatar

Beautiful beautiful words, and more importantly, what a beautiful love. Thank you for letting us witness you and feel with you.

venus faye's avatar

Aww, thanks so much for sharing your reflection. I really appreciate you taking the time to read and share your thoughts. 🙏

Shane Blick's avatar

This brought tears to my eyes. Thank you for sharing the beauty in your pain.

venus faye's avatar

Thanks for reading it and sharing how it resonated with you. I appreciate your friendship as we embark on this new writing journey we find ourselves on.

Shane Blick's avatar

✌️❤️

Tara Loving's avatar

wow this piece was so beautiful it genuinely made me cry. there is so many sentences that stand out for me, i can’t even pick one. thank you so much for sharing this it was wonderful 🤍

venus faye's avatar

Aww, I love that we are connected here. I attempted my first try at a Canva style cover- smiling about our friendship the entire time. Yours are way cooler! But that’s ok. I love being inspired by your covers, your writing, and your spirit. Can’t wait to do your interview! ♥️♥️♥️

venus faye's avatar

Wow, what a beautiful and eloquent reflection for my work! I so appreciate you taking the time to read and comment. Loosing Finn has definitely been a doorway, and though it hasn’t been easy to walk through, I’m so very grateful to be on this journey. And also feeling thankful to be able to write about it here and be witnessed and reflected back. Thanks again! 🙏

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venus faye's avatar

Yes, grief as a sail, and love as the breeze filling it. That's it! And a turning of the soul's compass as well. You have reflected back exactly what I am experiencing.

When I write Finn it is very much a communion of souls. Really, it's whenever I write about him or directly to him. This one I sat down and wrote all in one go, and I cried as I wrote it. The love pouring out into words that I know he is witnessing.

Thanks for reading and commenting so thoughtfully. I appreciate our friendship here.