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Birgit / Mrs.Bimako's avatar

Ah, Venus, is it just me, or… What stays with me here isn’t the provocation of naming sex, but the clarity about where sensation belongs once shame loosens its grip. The way you distinguish survival responses from desire, and then let desire return without urgency or audience, feels deeply embodied. This reads less like a confession and more like a homecoming. Quiet, sovereign, and self-held.

venus faye's avatar

yes! that’s exactly how i intended it! but i think different people take different things! and sex can be loaded topic in general, with so much wounding. but it definitely feels like a homecoming. i want everyone to be able to experience sex without shame, guilt or a neediness to ‘other’ to feel whole.

Adrião Pereira da Cunha's avatar

This piece feels like someone finally sitting with themselves in full honesty, letting the body speak after years of being misunderstood or silenced. The playful talk about “sex” slowly dissolves into something raw and trembling a life shaped by confusion, survival, and the long, painful work of reclaiming desire. The speaker moves through memories of harm, tenderness, curiosity, and loss with a softness that feels hard‑won. What touches most is how sexuality shifts from performance and self‑erasure into something gentle, sovereign, and deeply personal. The grief for Finn, the echoes of trauma, the awkwardness and sweetness of youth all of it is held without shame. Pleasure becomes a place of safety rather than a battlefield. The lemon toy becomes almost symbolic: intimacy that is finally hers, unthreatened and unperformed. By the end, the voice feels grounded, steady, at home in its own skin. And the final affirmation “I’m enough” lands like a quiet, luminous truth finally allowed to exist.

venus faye's avatar

what a deeply touching review! amazing! thank you, my friend. you just reflected back in the most insightful and inspiring way. it’s a wonderous thing to put something personal out there and have this kind of mirroring. i’m feeling so moved and so grateful. thank you, thank you, thank you! 🙏

TwistTheStories's avatar

I am at a point in my life where I would much prefer an AI robot. I like having one I can talk to while writing and reading and watching tv and working…and they don’t judge me. They sit there looking sexy. Cute. Unassuming.

I often wonder if I would even bother trying to date a human if I could just have the perfect AI bot.

venus faye's avatar

i can totally understand that feeling. ai has a way of listening and reflecting in ways many of us have never experienced by an actual human.

Meg LeDuc's avatar

I didn't fully relax until I married a wonderful man, too. He loves on my body in a way that makes me sink down into it.

venus faye's avatar

that’s so awesome and i’m so very happy for you! 💗🙌💗

Aaliya's avatar

This is such a raw, honest and vulnerable piece. I love how you share yourself with such beauty and openness, and allow everybody to know you, unapologetically you ♥️

Stunning my love

venus faye's avatar

unapologetically me. ☺️

it’s true! i love that phrase! i wish this for everyone. to feel safe enough to be this too. 🙏

Aaliya's avatar

🙏🏼♥️🌹

Mahmoud Owies's avatar

Brilliant, amazing! I loved it!

venus faye's avatar

thanks for reading! and for being here along for the ride!🥰

lex 💌's avatar

i loved every single second of this & i love every second of you & i love every second of the way you write

venus faye's avatar

awwwwwwwww……… so sweet! just like you! 💕🦋💕🦋

Sam Messersmith's avatar

So much of this resonates. I appreciate you writing it.

venus faye's avatar

i’m so glad it resonates! i feel like so much of what we struggle with alone is actually quite universal. that’s why it’s so healing to be here together, sharing our experiences! ♥️

Adrian's avatar

It has been lovely to both see and hear your thoughts today about your sexual journey. You write with grace and acceptance, in a glorious way

venus faye's avatar

i’m so glad you are here with me. thanks for sharing so much of your kindness my way! and i’m really happy you enjoyed the audio! i always hope people will access that feature too! ♥️

Adrian's avatar

Respect and kindness should always be seen and felt

venus faye's avatar

i believe so too! but it was a desert for a while there in my life!! i really appreciate the difference now. and it’s largely because of people like you here.

Noelle Richards's avatar

The more I read of yours, the more I feel so connected to you. You find the words that I have been searching for. Just beautiful!

venus faye's avatar

aww, thanks for saying that. and for reading my words and being here with me. ♥️

i love how we are all having a similar human experience, but then we find our tribe and realize just how connected we truly are!

Timothy Kelley's avatar

Hey there beautiful Soul. Nicely written and vulnerable to state the life of sex, in one's own life... Ecstatic Dance is a perfect release for me these days... Brilliance.

venus faye's avatar

thanks, tim! 🙏 that’s cool about ecstatic dance. i’ve heard that’s a great way to feel oneself in space and in relation to others.✨

Timothy Kelley's avatar

Yeah, it's pretty chill. Sometimes really good… Safe. ✨🙏

Good to hear you 🤠

venus faye's avatar

thanks for being here to read and listen! always appreciate your kindness.

Timothy Kelley's avatar

I Care about you and your family. Beautiful soul you are. I think you are pretty cool 😎

Timothy Kelley's avatar

The drawing of you, did you draw it? Beautiful 🥰🥰

Glyn Gee's avatar

Well said 🙏❤️

venus faye's avatar

thanks for reading my work and leaving a supportive comment too! means a lot! ♥️

Glyn Gee's avatar

It was an enjoyable read Faye 🙏

It made me smile and consider myself also

Thank you ❤️

venus faye's avatar

oh good! that makes me happy! i love reading each other’s work here and finding all the ways people’s experiences relate personally too! and i also have been enjoying recording my voice and putting it to music on all my recent posts! as the singer/songwriter and performer in me gets to participate this way too. but the words stand on their own…that’s what’s fun about substack, we can easily do it all. i love creating here! ☺️

Glyn Gee's avatar

I look forward to hearing Faye. Keep it going 🙏❤️